The best teachers ask children what they may want or need in a conversation, such as advice, sometimes its just listening, maybe kids need help in dealing with feelings, or help solving a problem.

The best teachers notice times when kids are most likely to talk–for example, at bedtime, before dinner, in the car–and be available.

The best teachers start the conversation; it lets kids know you care about what’s happening in their lives.

The best teachers find time each week for a one-on-one activity with each child, and avoid scheduling other activities during that time.

The best teachers learn about your children’s interests–for example, favorite music and activities–and show interest in them.

The best teachers initiate conversations by sharing what you have been thinking about rather than beginning a conversation with a question.

The best teachers let your kids know you’re listening

The best teachers  stop whatever they are doing and listen, when children are talking about concerns.

The best teachers express interest in what they are saying without being intrusive.

The best teachers listen to their point of view, even if it’s difficult to hear.

The best teachers let kids complete their point before responding.

The best teachers repeat what they have heard kids say to ensure that they understand them correctly.

The best teachers respond in a way children will hear.

The best teachers soften strong reactions; kids will tune you out if you appear angry or defensive.

The best teachers express your opinion without putting down theirs; acknowledge that it’s okay to disagree.

The best teachers resist arguing about who is right. Instead say, “I know you disagree with me, but this is what I think.”

The best teachers focus on a child’s feelings rather than your own during your conversation.

The best teachers talk to children, they don’t lecture, criticize, threaten, or say hurtful things.

The best teachers are role models, kids learn by imitating. Most often, they will follow your lead in how they deal with anger, solve problems, and work through difficult feelings.

 The best teachers in the world are in your life and always have been…the best teachers are parents.


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